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Post by SatiyaH on Jun 20, 2004 17:12:25 GMT -5
It seems that men are always trying to figure out what pleases women, what gets them off -- but they never seem concerned about their own erogenous zones. Well, today is your day in the sun, gentlemen.
We've all heard about that infamous G-spot located on, or rather "in", a woman's body. Do men have G-spots? Well, technically they don't, but there is a spot on their bodies that makes them crazy.
don't be anal retentive
This magical male part is the prostate.
Now before you guys get all ballistic on me, I suggest that you don't dog it until you've tried it. After all, enjoying anal stimulation is not an indication of sexual orientation. In other words, if you tell your girlfriend to touch you "back there", she won't assume that you're secretly sleeping with her brother Chris"tine".
Simply put, you have managed to discover the male G-spot, or prostate gland, and letting her experiment in that area can unleash incredibly erotic possibilities. The prostate is a small gland, about the size of half a walnut, located within the perineum -- the area between your testicles and anus. It secretes prostatic fluid, the main component of semen.
When the prostate is stimulated, it can intensify a man's orgasm like crazy. The prostate can be reached internally by inserting a lubricated finger in the anus, or for the bolder ones, sex toys. Gently massaging that gland can produce explosive orgasms for many men.
education = permissive stimulation
In the beginning of the 20th century, many wives used a steel device that was sold at the time to manually massage their husband's prostate during lovemaking. And during World War II, military medics gave prostate massages to soldiers who hadn't been with a woman for months as a treatment for "pelvic congestion."
Whereas some men only like to have their prostate touched when they're fully aroused, others feel that having their prostate stimulated increases their erection and leads to the best orgasms they've ever experienced.
There are even cases in which men don't even need to have their penises stimulated because the feeling that comes from the prostate's manipulation is stimulation enough to achieve full blown orgasms (I use the term "blown" loosely!).
Remember that in order to completely explore this erogenous zone with your partner, you need to feel comfortable, experimental and playful! Since everyone is different and enjoys different things, experimentation is the best way to discover your preferences. Which leads me to my next suggestion about oral sex and prostate pleasure.
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Post by SatiyaH on Jun 20, 2004 17:12:47 GMT -5
Once you have broached the subject of what pleases you with your significant other, allow her the freedom to experiment. Purchase some water-based lubricant -- let her cover her finger with some of it and insert her finger into your rectum.
Although it may feel strange initially, give it a moment because it will inevitably feel incredible (you think it's fun for women when you stick something that's five times the size of our fingers inside our backside?). It isn't necessary for her to insert her entire finger because it is the outer most third of your rectum that is the most sensitive.
let her explore slowly
This whole method of foreplay should be done at a snail's pace because an unhurried velocity will only increase your desire for more, and will also allow for both of you to adjust to this new sensation.
When she slowly begins moving her finger in and out, this will help relax the surrounding area. Once both of you are feeling comfortable and her finger is fully inside, advise her to curl her finger upwards, and do a "come here movement" with her finger (or better yet, just email this article to her!).
This motion has the tip of her finger tapping on your prostate. Some men are able to orgasm from this form of stimulation alone, while others desire this form of stimulation combined with oral sex.
blow my backside
You obviously need to have an open-minded woman to ask for anything that even remotely relates to your anus. So since you're one of the lucky ones, let's get kinky, shall we?
One day, when your woman is performing oral sex on you, let her stimulate your anus by rubbing it on the outside. You would not believe how incredible it feels when your penis and anus are being stimulated simultaneously.
If your woman is the "I'll try anything once" kinda gal, let her stimulate your anus with her tongue. Initially this may sound unappealing, but if you've just come out of the shower, then what's the problem?
Let her lick your testes and then move to that spot between your anus and your testes (perineum). She can even stimulate this spot with her fingers if she likes. Then gradually, she can move her tongue to your rectum and lick it slowly, as this may feel strange at first. This could feel increasingly amazing if she stimulates your penis with her hand at the same time.
stimulate the prostate
It's truly unfortunate that many Americans still have such a negative attitude about anal touching because they're missing out on an important aspect of the male human body.
Any woman that wants to please you in the same way that you please her will have no qualms about doing what you like. And remember that this could also be reciprocal.
There are women that also love anal stimulation. Even if they don't have prostates, anal touching can be quite exciting for both sexes, although men have the advantage over women in that category!
Because the prostate gland has so much nerve transference to the area, it becomes aroused very easily, and often results in an intense orgasm. Obviously, this is a great way for your woman to show her appreciation for all that you do in bed and let you be in pure receptive mode, something that all men find relieving and absolutely delightful.
Enjoy it fellas because this is your time to shine! So gentlemen, protect yourselves at all times.
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Post by SatiyaH on Jun 20, 2004 17:14:01 GMT -5
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Post by SatiyaH on Jun 20, 2004 17:16:01 GMT -5
Prostate Pleasures
Like any form of anal play, prostate stimulation isn't for everyone. Some people associate the anus with feelings of dirtiness or shame, while others just don't respond well to this form of stimulation. If you decide to try prostate manipulation, you need to respect your inhibitions -- and those of your partner -- by taking things slow.
Start with a hot shower so you and your partner will feel clean.
Don't just jump into prostate stimulation -- enjoy a little foreplay first!
Use lots of lubricant! Most couples report Anal Eze is best for this!
To find the prostate gland, reach down between your partner's legs, insert your index finger into the anus to the second knuckle and press forward, in a firm "come hither" motion. You'll be able to feel the prostate through the front part of the rectal wall.
Press gently. If you or your lover likes the sensation, press a little more firmly. You or your lover might enjoy a "shunting" sensation, experienced by smooth, rapid insertion and removal of one or more fingers.
Try using a sex toy! While many women's G-Spot toys work well for prostate stimulation, you'll also want to try some of the acrylic toys made specifically for anal play. If you opt to use a woman's G-Spot toy, be sure to select one with a wider safety base designed for harness or anal play. Also, if you've already used this toy on a woman for G-Spot stimulation, be sure to clean it and use a condom on it before inserting it for anal use.
If you find you don't enjoy the sensation of prostate stimulation alone, try pairing it with genital massage or oral sex.
Your response to prostate stimulation depends on your particular physiology. Some men experience crashing orgasms when they stimulate their prostate glands, while others simply enjoy a great deal of pleasure. Some men don't enjoy the sensation at all, while others could take it or leave it. If you are unsure about your feelings toward this type of sensation, try it! If you don't like it, you don't have to do it again.
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Post by kAHANyAH on Jun 20, 2004 17:39:56 GMT -5
very informative. However this aint for me. The little "g" spot for the male and its stimulation is opening a door that can never be shut. Its the first step for turning a man out. A dude's pleasure spot should always be external not internal. That is my most humble opinion on the matter. As they say to each his own  |
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Post by Hathor on Jun 21, 2004 9:18:01 GMT -5
"I Lean Something NEW every day! Hmmmm......"
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Post by SatiyaH on Jun 21, 2004 9:28:25 GMT -5
"I Lean Something NEW every day! Hmmmm......" I thought the same thing! |
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Post by Zakiah Levanah on Jun 21, 2004 10:12:28 GMT -5
very informative. However this aint for me. The little "g" spot for the male and its stimulation is opening a door that can never be shut. Its the first step for turning a man out. A dude's pleasure spot should always be external not internal. That is my most humble opinion on the matter. As they say to each his own Nothing says forever like letting her turn you out.  |
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Post by kAHANyAH on Jun 21, 2004 11:47:31 GMT -5
Hmmm....  . Where is 1dell, I need to have a manno ah manno talk wit him  .  Nothing says forever like letting her turn you out. |
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Post by SatiyaH on Jun 21, 2004 12:45:42 GMT -5
Nothing says forever like letting her turn you out. Girl! I do agree!  We spent an hour the other day at the Lion's Den (Adult store) stocking up We literally have a "toy chest". My D is definitely "interested" in the g-spot thing--but it's taking some building up first |
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Post by Zakiah Levanah on Jun 21, 2004 20:29:33 GMT -5
Girl! I do agree! We spent an hour the other day at the Lion's Den (Adult store) stocking up We literally have a "toy chest". My D is definitely "interested" in the g-spot thing--but it's taking some building up first 13 yrs is a long time I don't blame yall. We are still in the discovery stages, well I am. This would be a perfect spot for the smiley with the halo |
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Post by SatiyaH on Jun 21, 2004 21:07:36 GMT -5
The first time for this type of thing I don't think a guy could do with the chick he met last week  That's a very sensitive area--pun intended! |
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Post by Zandor on Jun 21, 2004 21:45:18 GMT -5
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Post by Zandor on Jun 21, 2004 21:47:51 GMT -5
you freaky sati  |
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Post by SatiyaH on Jun 21, 2004 22:36:16 GMT -5
you freaky sati  Who me? Wellll....maybe just a "little bit"  |
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