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Post by Zakiah Levanah on Aug 26, 2004 15:20:22 GMT -5
What Happens after you Find your Soulmate?
By Susie and Otto Collins
What's your perception of life with your perfect soulmate?
Joy, bliss, happiness--a life with no conflict and no major issues to work through?
Ward and June or Ozzy and Harriet with passion?
In our opinion, that just isn't the way it works. In our relationship, we are best friends--we have passion--we have joy--we are totally comfortable with each other and enjoy being together. Even with all this, we still have issues that challenge us and that "rock the boat."
We hate to burst your bubble, but we believe that soulmates come together to help each other to heal, learn and grow. It's what we and others, such as Gary Zukav, call Spiritual Partnership. Some people, such as Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks and Kenny and Julia Loggins, refer to it as "Conscious Relationship."
We also believe that you can find several "soulmates" in your lifetime. Wayne Dyer said that your soulmate can be the person who you can't stand but are in your life to teach you a powerful lesson.
Carolyn Myss says in "Spiritual Madness" that we are here to heal the parts of ourselves that don't know God yet. We believe that Soulmates help us to heal those parts if we are willing to do the work and look at ourselves openly and honestly. Soulmates can trigger certain reactions in you that point the direction to what needs to be healed.
So what happens after you find your soulmate?
Remember the Zen proverb that poses the question of--What happens before enlightenment? Chop wood, carry water. What happens after enlightenment? Chop wood, carry water. We feel this is a good analogy of what happens in relationships. You still must face your personal challenges but if you're conscious and awake, you can realize that you have a powerful ally to walk beside you on your path to enlightenment.
Many of us are finding that perfect "Soulmate" and many are searching for one. We suggest that you look at the people in your life--the ones who challenge you, the ones who love you. Say of prayer of gratitude for these "teachers." When someone close to you "presses your buttons," look at what you can learn from the situation. What parts of yourself need to be healed? What feelings come up for you?
Marriane Williamson has said that every thing we do is either an act of love or a cry for help. That's what a soulmate does for you--they are there to love you AND to help you when you cry for help. They also have the ability to "press your buttons" and this is for your highest good.
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Post by Zakiah Levanah on Aug 26, 2004 15:22:46 GMT -5
Finding Your Soul Mate
Loneliness is a hunger born deep in the heart. It is reflective of the inner need and eagerness to seek fulfillment and completeness. As human beings mature into adults, they consciously become more and more aware of their heart's inner despondency and strive to satiate it through various means. The most prominent way of course is by relating to others.
Deep in the heart there is hope that there is someone out there who is the 'right one' for you. This is the person who will make the flowers in you life bloom and multiply forever… The one whom you relate with from deep within you very soul - in other words, your soul mate. The institution of marriage for many seems to offer the fulfillment of this treasured dream hope…you find such a person and live 'happily ever after'. Many writers and poets have sought to explore this phenomenon of the search of a soul mate. Richard Bach's The Bridge Across Forever gives an interesting account of how he sought and found his soul mate.
The reason why we search is clear - evidently there is something we seek, which we think the other can give. However, our world is full of examples of shattered illusions and broken dreams. Someone who is regarded as a picture of love and beauty and virtue, turns out to be a bitter disappointment. There has been so much psychological and emotional strife thanks to this. Does this, therefore, imply that it is useless to try to share a life of beauty and togetherness with someone? Or is it that we need to re-orient ourselves and have the right attitude and approach? How can we guard ourselves against illusions and find the person who is 'right' for us in the evolutionary process of life?
To begin with, our search in the human ocean should be positive in nature and not be born out of a desperate need. All predominantly need-based relationships will tend to eventually crumble, because the result is possessiveness and fear. Of course, the question may arise here that if completeness were within would it imply that we would become islands unto ourselves? No, not necessarily. It is only when we are bound by our needs and fear that we unable to reach out and share and merge. Being free from within ensures that we truly reach out and relate to the other - soul-to-soul, spirit-to-spirit. Body and material consciousness, however, tend to prevent us from doing so.
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Post by kAHANyAH on Aug 26, 2004 16:32:32 GMT -5
There are three grades to mate-hood; physical mates, spirit mate and soul mate.
Physical mates is your bad karma. You incarnate and meet up with two or more of these types in your life time . It all depends on how much karma trauma you've inflicted on your matrix-self from previous lives . These mates are suppose to force you to learn the hard way, the negative aspects of pornei [fornication]. Ideal type of relationship fitting this criteria is Jezebel and her lovers.
Spritual mate is good karma. However because the spirit is not perfection there is no guarantee when you meet your spirit mate it will be "happily ever after". There is only one spiritual mate. Adam and Eve were the ideal spirit mate proto-type. As you can see from the story, spiritual matehood aint perfect. Your spirit mate is suppose to keep you in near perfect balance with the universe. A well structured household, healthy relationship is to be expected from this type. The institution of marriage hails from spirit matehood.
Soul mate breaks the cycle of karma [reincarnation]. The function of the soul mate is not to live with you in marriage or bring children into the world with you. Its function is to propell you out of the rings of karma. He or she is suppose to effect a chemical change in you [genes], allowing you to free yourself from karma, karma that works in your genes. The N'ksh [serpent] and Eve (samson and Delilah, Solomon and the mistress, Jesus and Mary of Magdelin) is the soul mate proto-type. There is only one soul mate. And it takes a 1000 yr. incarnation/karmic cycle before you encounter your soul mate.
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Post by Zandor on Aug 26, 2004 17:42:09 GMT -5
Hey Kah, Very nice breakdown!! There are three grades to mate-hood; physical mates, spirit mate and soul mate. Physical mates is your bad karma. You incarnate and meet up with two or more of these types in your life time . It all depends on how much karma trauma you've inflicted on your matrix-self from previous lives . These mates are suppose to force you to learn the hard way, the negative aspects of pornei [fornication]. Ideal type of relationship fitting this criteria is Jezebel and her lovers. Spritual mate is good karma. However because the spirit is not perfection there is no guarantee when you meet your spirit mate it will be "happily ever after". There is only one spiritual mate. Adam and Eve were the ideal spirit mate proto-type. As you can see from the story, spiritual matehood aint perfect. Your spirit mate is suppose to keep you in near perfect balance with the universe. A well structured household, healthy relationship is to be expected from this type. The institution of marriage hails from spirit matehood. Soul mate breaks the cycle of karma [reincarnation]. The function of the soul mate is not to live with you in marriage or bring children into the world with you. Its function is to propell you out of the rings of karma. He or she is suppose to effect a chemical change in you [genes], allowing you to free yourself from karma, karma that works in your genes. The N'ksh [serpent] and Eve (samson and Delilah, Solomon and the mistress, Jesus and Mary of Magdelin) is the soul mate proto-type. There is only one soul mate. And it takes a 1000 yr. incarnation/karmic cycle before you encounter your soul mate. |
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Post by kAHANyAH on Aug 26, 2004 17:46:13 GMT -5
thnx Eshu. I tried to keep it simple with the generix break down. I hope it conveyed the essence of what I wanted to say. Hey Kah, Very nice breakdown!! |
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Post by Ahab on Aug 29, 2004 5:34:32 GMT -5
Finding Your Soul Mate Loneliness is a hunger born deep in the heart. It is reflective of the inner need and eagerness to seek fulfillment and completeness. ..The reason why we search is clear - evidently there is something we seek, which we think the other can give. However, our world is full of examples of shattered illusions and broken dreams. Someone who is regarded as a picture of love and beauty and virtue, turns out to be a bitter disappointment... we need to re-orient ourselves and have the right attitude and approach? How can we guard ourselves against illusions and find the person who is 'right' for us in the evolutionary process of life? Ahhh... the QUEST of the heart! |
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Post by Ahab on Aug 29, 2004 5:48:26 GMT -5
There are three grades to mate-hood; physical mates, spirit mate and soul mate. Physical mates is your bad karma. You incarnate and meet up with two or more of these types in your life time . It all depends on how much karma trauma you've inflicted on your matrix-self from previous lives . These mates are suppose to force you to learn the hard way, the negative aspects of pornei [fornication]. Ideal type of relationship fitting this criteria is Jezebel and her lovers. Spritual mate is good karma. However because the spirit is not perfection there is no guarantee when you meet your spirit mate it will be "happily ever after". There is only one spiritual mate. Adam and Eve were the ideal spirit mate proto-type. As you can see from the story, spiritual matehood aint perfect. Your spirit mate is suppose to keep you in near perfect balance with the universe. A well structured household, healthy relationship is to be expected from this type. The institution of marriage hails from spirit matehood. Soul mate breaks the cycle of karma [reincarnation]. The function of the soul mate is not to live with you in marriage or bring children into the world with you. Its function is to propell you out of the rings of karma. He or she is suppose to effect a chemical change in you [genes], allowing you to free yourself from karma, karma that works in your genes. The N'ksh [serpent] and Eve (samson and Delilah, Solomon and the mistress, Jesus and Mary of Magdelin) is the soul mate proto-type. There is only one soul mate. And it takes a 1000 yr. incarnation/karmic cycle before you encounter your soul mate. There are souls who have encompassed all those situation in ONE life time, yet, the masses tend to judge or label them, instead of realizing that all things happens for a reason, and all things are a lesson for those involved. All is just a part of life! |
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Post by kAHANyAH on Aug 29, 2004 6:52:28 GMT -5
There are rules and laws gov' the soul just as you'd find in real time world. Alot of people think the unseen reality is an abstraction and anything goes. That is not the case. Order can be found within the spirit and soul. There are souls who have encompassed all those situation in ONE life time, yet, the masses tend to judge or label them, instead of realizing that all things happens for a reason, and all things are a lesson for those involved. All is just a part of life! |
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Post by Ahab on Aug 30, 2004 2:45:22 GMT -5
True, order can be found within the spirit and soul, if that soul has progressed to that stage, and you get there by your everyday interactions.
In this day and times we need the Book of Proverbs, as a guide line,because life don't come with manuals.
To quote a dear friend of mines, who stated "a person may cross path with several soul mates in one life time, but it could be strickly for learning some valuable lesson from them."
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