Question for the women:

[1dell]

The problem with women now days is that they don't THINK!!! They don't meditate on ish. I am sure if they thought most things thru they wouldn't do 70% of the shit they do. I mean it's all about following unctions and just reacting to ish. There are a NUMBER of stimuli out there that will govenr a woman if they are just given to unctions and feelings and patterns and moods rather than logic and thought. Moods and feelings can be induced and manipulated by proper stimuli making a person a puppet on a strang. I can affect a person's mood by words or food, or drugs or music or sound or vibration, the government knows this and employs these techniques to control us. Women are especially given to this and they become NOTHING moor than vessels of unwilling meat, some of them. It's pitiful to watch.

The reason I bring this up is because If women THOUGHT some of that stuff thru before they did it (dating guys that are tall ONLY, etc) they would see how foolish that ish is. I remember at one time I wanted to ONLY date ethiopians or indian women. I was lonely ass hell, and then when I got a chance, I wasn't impressed at all!!! That was a waste of dayum time!!!! So I shucked that certain look out the door and went moor for attractive but women of content and As you can see Anav, I hit the jackpot Blang Blang Nilga Blang Blang!

These young girls make me wanna kill them!!! Talking about how they have to have a tall dude or a light skinned dude, not even considering that what they REALLY need is a compatible mate. Being tall don't make you any moor attractive than a being short! When I say attractive I am talkin about the face. In fact sex with a short guy can be better than with a tall guy. We can talk about that later if you like but I don't want yall to think this is about self promotion or that I am advertising

[Zakiah Levanah]

1dell said:

yeah, now what I DO innerstand is getting a man LIKE your father or uncle or cuzzin in that This man has a sense of humor like your pops, or he raises kids like your pop and you are moor comfortable with his style of dress or personality or his approach to the practical things of life and handling business efficiently and the way he maintains the home because you felt secure in your pops house and you define security as such things and this man provides that same brand of security. now THAT I innerstand.

But getting man because he LOOKS like a relative or has the same PHYSICAL traits of a relative is just artificial to me.

It may be subconcious connection to what you just described. The eyes see the man and the subconciousn relates the looks to the attributes, comfort zone ect. I'm just speculating I can't say for myself because I don't think I look for brothers that look like my dad. Your stern disciplinary serious side reminds me of my dad. Even my brother said that.

[1dell]

Yeah sweety, don't take this person, just rapping on some real life ish here. But you are right that is how the brain works. It SEES a thing then relates it to something similar, then the other senses get involved and the sight of thing starts to induce a feeling, a mood, a state of mind that is ALTOGETHER FALSE!!! The man MAY remind one of their uncle but that in NO WAY means that he is LIKE that uncle. Hell uncle Puddin coulda been a faithful man, church going brutha, hard working. And this dude who is tall like Uncle Puddin and has the same nose may be a playa and can't keep a job over 3 months. Women set themselves up for self deception that way and it's damaging.

Also too just because he reminds one of their uncle don't mean they gotta give him some ass . Why can't women just be his friend why they gotta cock the legs opemn for that nigga? thats sick to me, here is the line of logic "wow, he looks like my uncle/dad/brother, i am turned by him, let me give him some ass" So logically a woman like that would give her uncle/dad/brother some ass or at one time must have been sexually attract to her uncle/dad/brother when she was a little girl or growing up.

[Zakiah Levanah]

1dell said:

The problem with women now days is that they don't THINK!!! They don't meditate on ish. I am sure if they thought most things thru they wouldn't do 70% of the shit they do. I mean it's all about following unctions and just reacting to ish. There are a NUMBER of stimuli out there that will govenr a woman if they are just given to unctions and feelings and patterns and moods rather than logic and thought. Moods and feelings can be induced and manipulated by proper stimuli making a person a puppet on a strang. I can affect a person's mood by words or food, or drugs or music or sound or vibration, the government knows this and employs these techniques to control us. Women are especially given to this and they become NOTHING moor than vessels of unwilling meat, some of them. It's pitiful to watch.

The reason I bring this up is because If women THOUGHT some of that stuff thru before they did it (dating guys that are tall ONLY, etc) they would see how foolish that ish is. I remember at one time I wanted to ONLY date ethiopians or indian women. I was lonely ass hell, and then when I got a chance, I wasn't impressed at all!!! That was a waste of dayum time!!!! So I shucked that certain look out the door and went moor for attractive but women of content and As you can see Anav, I hit the jackpot Blang Blang Nilga Blang Blang!

These young girls make me wanna kill them!!! Talking about how they have to have a tall dude or a light skinned dude, not even considering that what they REALLY need is a compatible mate. Being tall don't make you any moor attractive than a being short! When I say attractive I am talkin about the face. In fact sex with a short guy can be better than with a tall guy. We can talk about that later if you like but I don't want yall to think this is about self promotion or that I am advertising

I think we are all guilty of that, men included. I'm sure there are plenty niccas who have passed up a sister because she didn't have a horse azz, or because her hair texture was not a certain way, or because she was not thick or slim. Some are motivated by a one track mine, instead of not thinking they think only of azz. The only difference is that a woman becomes (or is viewed)as bruised fruit from these careless decisions and men well become experienced or polished I don't know. Oh and thanks for the compliment, you may wanna play again tonight the Pot just got bigger

[Zakiah Levanah]

1dell said:

Yeah sweety, don't take this person, just rapping on some real life ish here. But you are right that is how the brain works. It SEES a thing then relates it to something similar, then the other senses get involved and the sight of thing starts to induce a feeling, a mood, a state of mind that is ALTOGETHER FALSE!!! The man MAY remind one of their uncle but that in NO WAY means that he is LIKE that uncle. Hell uncle Puddin coulda been a faithful man, church going brutha, hard working. And this dude who is tall like Uncle Puddin and has the same nose may be a playa and can't keep a job over 3 months. Women set themselves up for self deception that way and it's damaging.

Also too just because he reminds one of their uncle don't mean they gotta give him some ass . Why can't women just be his friend why they gotta cock the legs opemn for that nigga? thats sick to me, here is the line of logic "wow, he looks like my uncle/dad/brother, i am turned by him, let me give him some ass" So logically a woman like that would give her uncle/dad/brother some ass or at one time must have been sexually attract to her uncle/dad/brother when she was a little girl or growing up.

EEEHHH that may be true but more than likely the sister gives up azz fast because that is how she operates or is operated, when that stimulation occurs. It could go something like this also. Wow he is cool, we like the same music, we both appreciate art, his conversation is great and the he's an Aries oooooh my highschool sweetheart was an Aries....2 weeks later azz platter served. It doesn't mean he was like the highs chool sweetheart or that you were compatible for the long hall. But he was able to stimulate the azz gland. A man who can appeal to a womans senses and knows what to say (LIKE YOU) are a danger to the fast azzed LOL. Sisters want to give brothers the benefit of the doubt. These brothers with good game can usually stimulate the azz gland in their worse states and this makes the sisters trying to give a brother the benefit of the doubt look even worse. Like that nicca in jail with more woman than most, that nicca with 10 kids who keep a fine woman or that nicca who can't keep a job for 3 mos but has a woman buying him clothes. I don't know what to call that type of behavior. Woman may need to at least employ the 90 day probation like jobs do before they give up the benefits. Thats how we did LOL thnk god we didn't meet any sooner hehe. You really don't know if your compatible until your in a 24/7 situation in the struggle. No matter who he looks like or how he makes you feel about ya self pre or post sex.

[1dell]

You are right baby, you are so right. Good come back.

Anav said:

EEEHHH that may be true but more than likely the sister gives up azz fast because that is how she operates or is operated, when that stimulation occurs. It could go something like this also. Wow he is cool, we like the same music, we both appreciate art, his conversation is great and the he's an Aries oooooh my highschool sweetheart was an Aries....2 weeks later azz platter served. It doesn't mean he was like the highs chool sweetheart or that you were compatible for the long hall. But he was able to stimulate the azz gland. A man who can appeal to a womans senses and knows what to say (LIKE YOU) are a danger to the fast azzed LOL. Sisters want to give brothers the benefit of the doubt. These brothers with good game can usually stimulate the azz gland in their worse states and this makes the sisters trying to give a brother the benefit of the doubt look even worse. Like that nicca in jail with more woman than most, that nicca with 10 kids who keep a fine woman or that nicca who can't keep a job for 3 mos but has a woman buying him clothes. I don't know what to call that type of behavior. Woman may need to at least employ the 90 day probation like jobs do before they give up the benefits. Thats how we did LOL thnk god we didn't meet any sooner hehe. You really don't know if your compatible until your in a 24/7 situation in the struggle. No matter who he looks like or how he makes you feel about ya self pre or post sex.

[Zakiah Levanah]

1dell said:

You are right baby, you are so right. Good come back.

Thanku Brownie unda da fudge uum um

[nebthet]

What?
I never said I only go for thta type,
I said I'm attracted to that type that's all.
My ba ba aint ish I just liked to brush his hair
when I was younger. I don't even look for
that type of men only. I f your nappy then so
be it, I don't discriminate.
Funk it...it was my opinion anyway,no need
to raise a blood pressure over.
Here 1dell

[Brownbonnet]

HIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIGH YAAAAAAAAAAALLERRRRR! GIVE 'EM TAH ME, BAY-BEH; DUMDUM DUMDUM! Asian, African American, Latino, Brownskins, yellahs.......that's the kinda man ah likes.......oooooowwwweeeeee333eee!

[kAHANyAH]

testing huggy bear emoticon...



oh damn! 1dellllllllllll the emoticons aint working again.

[CoUrTnEy]

1dell i been guilty of the same.. i was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO in love with tall men.. and look what that got me - single parenthood (although i thank the good Lord for my daughter Jas). When i met my current hubby he was attractive, but short. And he was sweet as can be!! I actually told my best friend that he may have been "too nice" for me. Now that i look back i realize what a moron i was to think that. And i wondered why i was in the position i was in in the past. I decided after that first brain fart i was going to do something different - base compatibility on the inside and mix in a little prayer. And look at me now, married, happy, my daughter happy!! Im not saying it's always peaches and cream, I have cried on 1dell's shoulder more than once Having a real relationship takes work, blood, sweat, and a few tears. But things have worked out when i concentrated on the things that truly matter. I wish that more women would see that in the long run (and i can't believe i am actually saying this) it is truly what is inside that counts the most.

[kAHANyAH]

women have inherited that "eve gene" pre-disposing them to attraction which ensnares them thru their eyes. That is the biggest temptation for women is "BEAUTY". What is very symmetrical and harmonious and flowing with nature appeals to women. The tall symmetrical lean handsome look is very "pleasant to the eyes" of women.

Adam must have been a holy man. But I sincerely doubt he was a "STUD MUFFIN". Prolly looked like "the nutty professor"

MUHAHAHAHAHAH!!!

[kAHANyAH]

Tallness and darkness are considered dominant traits. Women are attracted by nature to the alpha male. The physically dominant as well as dominant character.
I saw a show on discovery channel about it. Although humans use a thought process when choosing a mate, we still have this carnal nature about us to "breed" for the best, healthiest etc.

The evolution of the human body and mind has resulted in an incredibly complex psychophysiology. This sets humans apart from how all other animals approach reproduction. Males compete for breeding rights, females select the best available male. Many female mammals come into heat, a limited period when she is impregnable. Before and during this period, physiological changes occur that are detectable by the male. She becomes the most desirable female around, and she wants sex. The males line up for her, compete for her, and she selects and mates with the best. For other animals, instead of walking away, the female expresses her lack of desire by swatting the male. For example, a lioness, well equipped with weapons and close to the same size, can discourage any male by beating the hell out of him. He, having other females in his harem, shrugs his figurative shoulders and goes elsewhere.

Such is not the case for a human. Men rarely battle each other for breeding rights. Women don't come into heat: they can mate at any time, she can get pregnant any month, deliver any day. Women don't automatically mate with a man because he won a fight. However, people still apply criteria in selecting a mate, and those criteria are gender-linked.



Male Criteria

The human male has a drive to impregnate as many females as possible, to create as many offspring with his genes as possible. Thus, he applies criteria typical for a male animal. He looks for women who are impregna le: those who are old enough to be past puberty, but young enough to care for children for at least several years. He looks for healthy (i.e., clear, smooth skin, "bright" eyes, good conformation of body and limbs, etc.) women, so they can carry the fetus to term, deliver it, and care for it after birth. Beyond that, he doesn't really care. She doesn't have to be intelligent, talented, socially aware, or in any other way have a brain. In fact, the dumber she is the easier it would be for him to meet her criteria for desirability since they are less likely to be extensive.

Thus, men have minimal criteria for sexual desire; basically, they are concerned with a woman's anatomy -- as long as a woman looks young enough and healthy, she is desirable. They also consider her beautiful, since to a male beautiful and desirable are virtually synonymous.

What is considered healthy-looking has varied over the years and centuries, and from culture to culture. In periods when there were food shortages, a woman that is now considered obese was thought attractive since her appearance clearly showed she had ample reserves. Other changes such as cosmetics to produce a healthy appearance,clothing that exaggerated the hips and thus gave an impression of an excellent child-bearing structure, etc., have increased men's perception of a woman's desirability as a sexual partner. Of course, few men consciously relate certain features with health, and thus that is why they find them attractive. They simply find women with such features sexually attractive, and that's enough without analyzing why. Basically, all it takes is a big butt (child bearing anatomy) and smile (good teeth sign of good health).

Many characteristics are deemed attractive by the culture. That is, they are learned. The human male has a mind as well, and is taught much of the way he is supposed to regard the world. This includes what the female features are that he should c nsider attractive (i.e., sexually desirable), including non-physical as well as physical attributes. Such non-physical attributes include a woman's mind, accomplishments, and prospects.

Nonetheless, although his culture and society may tell him that he should consider more than anatomy, "people are likely to express approval for socially approved characteristics rather than for what actually attracts them." Deep down inside he still howls at the moon when a woman meeting his physical criteria walks by (whistles, hoots, yells etc.)

This does not mean that the human male is a walking hormone. He, like the female, is a member of the human race, and thus is also aware of human society, its constraints and demands.

He will desire any woman in sight who satisfies his physical, instinctive criteria for the right sexual partner. However, the one he selects for actual pursuit, the one to whom he will devote resources trying to satisfy her criteria, must satisfy societal and/or cultural criteria that overlay the instinctive criteria. For most men, this will include those factors that make a woman a functioning and consequential member of the human race. Such factors include intelligence, wit and imagination. They may also include the same criteria that women apply to men, including money, status, religious or political affiliation, and power. All of these human male criteria enter his list of factors for determining a woman's suitability for pursuit. They are as vital to him as to her since they will contribute to the offspring's future. Human society, unlike many animals, insists that the male take an active part in the care of the female while she's pregnant and in the rearing of children. Since such is the case, men take these factors into consideration when deciding which woman to pursue seriously. Nonetheless, although these criteria will enter a man's conscious consideration of a woman's desirability as an object of pursuit, it doesn't reduce or alter his instinctive reaction to a woman's appearance as a sexual partner.

Female Criteria

The human female, on the other hand, runs into a real problem: the human mind. Remember that females must apply more criteria to select a male than males apply to a female. It is not the nearest possibility, but the best possibility that she desires. A woman's mind allows her, and indeed forces her to examine possible criteria to a much greater extent than any other animal. She can also project the consequences of choices into the future. What constitutes an alpha male, the best male with which to mate and produce the best possible offspring, depends on far more factors than any other animal on earth. The criteria for her to desire sexually a man can include strength or health or fighting ability, like the lion or the wolf. However, they can also include intelligence, money, power, prestige, position, status, attitudes, political or religious convictions, any number and combination of factors. It's whatever she believes a man should be that will result in 1) the best possible genes for her offspring, and 2) the offspring's best chance for survival and ability to pass on its genes. It is the human mind that allows her to consider the possibilities, the criteria, the future outcome of her actions. She does not go into heat and mate with the closest best bet. She makes plans, examines her choices, makes conscious decisions. Only the human female can make conscious, planned decisions about her sex life.

Women's ability to think consciously about their sexual lives does not mean she doesn't have instinctive desires as strong as a man's. What it does mean is she will often subordinate that desire: she may desire a physically attractive man, but she will not actually have sex with him until he has satisfied more than physical criteria.


AUTHOR - UNKNOWN [was sent to me via email]

[nebthet]

Dayum..that got me thinking twice about marriage, all men aren't like that though

Bel said:

Tallness and darkness are considered dominant traits. Women are attracted by nature to the alpha male. The physically dominant as well as dominant character.
I saw a show on discovery channel about it. Although humans use a thought process when choosing a mate, we still have this carnal nature about us to "breed" for the best, healthiest etc.

The evolution of the human body and mind has resulted in an incredibly complex psychophysiology. This sets humans apart from how all other animals approach reproduction. Males compete for breeding rights, females select the best available male. Many female mammals come into heat, a limited period when she is impregnable. Before and during this period, physiological changes occur that are detectable by the male. She becomes the most desirable female around, and she wants sex. The males line up for her, compete for her, and she selects and mates with the best. For other animals, instead of walking away, the female expresses her lack of desire by swatting the male. For example, a lioness, well equipped with weapons and close to the same size, can discourage any male by beating the hell out of him. He, having other females in his harem, shrugs his figurative shoulders and goes elsewhere.

Such is not the case for a human. Men rarely battle each other for breeding rights. Women don't come into heat: they can mate at any time, she can get pregnant any month, deliver any day. Women don't automatically mate with a man because he won a fight. However, people still apply criteria in selecting a mate, and those criteria are gender-linked.



Male Criteria

The human male has a drive to impregnate as many females as possible, to create as many offspring with his genes as possible. Thus, he applies criteria typical for a male animal. He looks for women who are impregna le: those who are old enough to be past puberty, but young enough to care for children for at least several years. He looks for healthy (i.e., clear, smooth skin, "bright" eyes, good conformation of body and limbs, etc.) women, so they can carry the fetus to term, deliver it, and care for it after birth. Beyond that, he doesn't really care. She doesn't have to be intelligent, talented, socially aware, or in any other way have a brain. In fact, the dumber she is the easier it would be for him to meet her criteria for desirability since they are less likely to be extensive.

Thus, men have minimal criteria for sexual desire; basically, they are concerned with a woman's anatomy -- as long as a woman looks young enough and healthy, she is desirable. They also consider her beautiful, since to a male beautiful and desirable are virtually synonymous.

What is considered healthy-looking has varied over the years and centuries, and from culture to culture. In periods when there were food shortages, a woman that is now considered obese was thought attractive since her appearance clearly showed she had ample reserves. Other changes such as cosmetics to produce a healthy appearance,clothing that exaggerated the hips and thus gave an impression of an excellent child-bearing structure, etc., have increased men's perception of a woman's desirability as a sexual partner. Of course, few men consciously relate certain features with health, and thus that is why they find them attractive. They simply find women with such features sexually attractive, and that's enough without analyzing why. Basically, all it takes is a big butt (child bearing anatomy) and smile (good teeth sign of good health).

Many characteristics are deemed attractive by the culture. That is, they are learned. The human male has a mind as well, and is taught much of the way he is supposed to regard the world. This includes what the female features are that he should c nsider attractive (i.e., sexually desirable), including non-physical as well as physical attributes. Such non-physical attributes include a woman's mind, accomplishments, and prospects.

Nonetheless, although his culture and society may tell him that he should consider more than anatomy, "people are likely to express approval for socially approved characteristics rather than for what actually attracts them." Deep down inside he still howls at the moon when a woman meeting his physical criteria walks by (whistles, hoots, yells etc.)

This does not mean that the human male is a walking hormone. He, like the female, is a member of the human race, and thus is also aware of human society, its constraints and demands.

He will desire any woman in sight who satisfies his physical, instinctive criteria for the right sexual partner. However, the one he selects for actual pursuit, the one to whom he will devote resources trying to satisfy her criteria, must satisfy societal and/or cultural criteria that overlay the instinctive criteria. For most men, this will include those factors that make a woman a functioning and consequential member of the human race. Such factors include intelligence, wit and imagination. They may also include the same criteria that women apply to men, including money, status, religious or political affiliation, and power. All of these human male criteria enter his list of factors for determining a woman's suitability for pursuit. They are as vital to him as to her since they will contribute to the offspring's future. Human society, unlike many animals, insists that the male take an active part in the care of the female while she's pregnant and in the rearing of children. Since such is the case, men take these factors into consideration when deciding which woman to pursue seriously. Nonetheless, although these criteria will enter a man's conscious consideration of a woman's desirability as an object of pursuit, it doesn't reduce or alter his instinctive reaction to a woman's appearance as a sexual partner.

Female Criteria

The human female, on the other hand, runs into a real problem: the human mind. Remember that females must apply more criteria to select a male than males apply to a female. It is not the nearest possibility, but the best possibility that she desires. A woman's mind allows her, and indeed forces her to examine possible criteria to a much greater extent than any other animal. She can also project the consequences of choices into the future. What constitutes an alpha male, the best male with which to mate and produce the best possible offspring, depends on far more factors than any other animal on earth. The criteria for her to desire sexually a man can include strength or health or fighting ability, like the lion or the wolf. However, they can also include intelligence, money, power, prestige, position, status, attitudes, political or religious convictions, any number and combination of factors. It's whatever she believes a man should be that will result in 1) the best possible genes for her offspring, and 2) the offspring's best chance for survival and ability to pass on its genes. It is the human mind that allows her to consider the possibilities, the criteria, the future outcome of her actions. She does not go into heat and mate with the closest best bet. She makes plans, examines her choices, makes conscious decisions. Only the human female can make conscious, planned decisions about her sex life.

Women's ability to think consciously about their sexual lives does not mean she doesn't have instinctive desires as strong as a man's. What it does mean is she will often subordinate that desire: she may desire a physically attractive man, but she will not actually have sex with him until he has satisfied more than physical criteria.


AUTHOR - UNKNOWN [was sent to me via email]

[Zakiah Levanah]

nebthet said:

Dayum..that got me thinking twice about marriage, all men aren't like that though

My mom always has said that men are inherently dogs in nature or animal like because that is how God created them to be fruitful and multiply. You'd think that they'd be more responcible with where they spill there seeds all over the place since they can be planted and grow. But hey God said spill it in whores if you must